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4. The Dude and the Fear of Failure

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The Dude gets tired of not slacking.  When he's too busy working to not have a job then he feels out of balance. 

Sometimes he'll need a reminder.  A beer, some Crosby, Stills & Nash, or the holy sounds of falling pins at the bowling alley. 

Modern day go-getters would be confused by his state of inaction.  But the Dude knows that when feelings of tension arise it is because of resistance to how life is right now.  

Resisting Life


"I'm too busy!" 

"I don't have enough time for you, right now." 

You know what? 

You won't ever have enough time, because that's your story. 

No one can change it but you. 

But this might also be resistance... resistance to being busy. 

Even when active, the Dude doesn't lose his centre.  Shopping with the kids, he feels his state of inner mellowness.  Being pushed by too many client deadlines, she chooses to let some of them go, so she can have time to take it easy. 


St Francis de Sales must have been quite a chilled dude.  He said,

"Never be in a hurry; do everything quietly and in a calm spirit.  Do not lose your inner peace for anything whatsoever, even if your whole world seems upset." 


The Dude isn't troubled by success or failure.  Whichever comes is met with indifference.  She knows the world is full of greed and need, but she is nourished be an inner peace.   

The Dude avoids trying to force others to his particular view.  He knows that the modern intellect cannot appreciate an ageless wisdom.  He does not try to flatter or manipulate others to his own ends, which means that in work, he can be largely overlooked.

The Dude is honest and upright without a sense of knowing why or how, but just is.  Her strength comes from an inner trust, to have mastered herself by seeing through the false ego. 

Seeing Through the Ego


It is this ego that leads most of humanity.  Whenever our sense of an individual is threatened in some way, we feel the need to react, to reinforce who we believe we are, and this often leads to conflict, or resistance, or a temporary satisfaction when circumstances are met with our approval.

The Dude is different.  He has seen through the lie of anxiety.  She has looked through the face of the separate self and seen it for what it is, a sham.  As a result, the Dude values different things; life, simplicity, quiet, and just being. 

Simply Being


Being content with being causes the Dude to not overreach, and not overreact.  And in this way, those who try to place goals and objectives on the Dude, and who attempt to benchmark his or her performance against a set of required standards do so in a way that is insensitive to the beauty and compassion of our natural being.

What goals and objectives does the wild deer have?

What performance anxiety does the common cat have?

What does the bird in the tree not have that forces it to do, rather than be?

Are we really any different?

Once everything was given to us freely, nature did this, before there was any sense of ownership.  And since then we are either anxious to lose something, anxious to not gain something, happy with our lot, or not.  Whichever one, our state of wellbeing is tied to some outer situation.

In the next blog, we will look at the Dude and the sense of control.  Is there some kind of authority restraining us, and if there is, how does the Dude deal with that?


Thanks once again for reading.

Remember to let go of your cares once in a while and be free of their weight.  Travel light.


The Reverend Thomo








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